Be Selfish

There's a really happy lie that we all like to believe in,  "We are going to be remembered." And thus we take measured steps and restrain ourselves to dream of achieving goals which only the "world glorifies". We count on our loved ones to spend a substantial amount of time mourning over our death. But the fact is, life goes on. With time, people learn to move on. A time comes when they will no longer care. My point is, is it

worth it to sacrifice our dreams in order to appease our loved ones?  

Nothing's worse than the regret you feel in your deathbed. "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life other people expected of me." as Shannon L.Alder beautifully puts it. We've got this one life, a beautiful opportunity, a blessing to create something magnificent in order to leave our footprints in the sands of time. Your dreams matter. Big or small. So go for it, be selfish enough to make yourself happy. At the end of the day, that is what matters. 

"You are alive. That means you have infinite potential .You can do anything, make anything, dream anything. If you change the world, the world will change. ~Neil Gaiman

6 Reasons Why We All Need a Best Friend

“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.” ― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh 

A sorrow shared is a sorrow halved ,just as a happiness shared is a happiness doubled. And since we can't share all our problems or our triumphs with everybody, God has blessed each and every one of us with at least one close chum we can fall back on at the end of each day. The most beautiful part of friendship is, it transcends all barriers- age, sex, caste, creed ,religion or race. For me, the best part of each day is the time of the evening I share with my mother, and we pour  our hearts out to each other in a tete-a-tete over a cup of tea. So, I shortlisted six reasons why we all need a close friend, in order to make everyone aware of the blessing they have called a true friend .

• A good friend is a good listener- No matter what we've gone through the entire day, we can actually share all that with our close buddy. And that close buddy won't mind listening to our crap and endless rantings until our heart is satisfied. What are close chums for, after all?
• Comfort- As I mentioned earlier, we are not comfortable sharing our problems with everyone. So we need that one person wont judge us by our actions but will instead understand our problems and try to fix them.
• Connectedness- There are certain things you share in common with your close friend. It might be a common interest in sports,  a fetish for books, or a penchant for cooking, or it can just the way you both look at things, i.e. the basic philosophies of life. This is what makes two persons the closest of friends and helps to create an everlasting bonding.
• Fun - One of the various connotations for the word friendship is fun. And that's the kind of fun that takes place when two close friends are together- whether its going ROFL over a joke only you both understand, quarreling over whose crush is better looking, or rubbing cake cream all over each others faces!
•  A true friend gives honest opinions- It is important to have that one person who is candid enough to tell us what we're doing is right or wrong. Whether it comes down to a dress we're wearing,  our behavior in public, or an unscrupulous act of having cheated on someone. True friends back us, but at the same time help us see things in a better light.
• A good friend is essentially a 3am friend-  Yes, one of the biggest reasons why we all need a best friend. If you're feeling depressed in the middle of the night and you're on the verge of tears, all you want is the company of a close bud. And sometimes, it might not be possible for your close pal to be physically present, but all it takes is to dial his/her number on your phone. Sometimes you don't even need to speak, but the feeling of having your friend on the other side of the phone provides a whole lot of comfort.

That's the kind of friendship we all look forward to in our lives. And if you look hard, I'm sure you'll find that one person in life who deserves to be called a best friend. The person who has been silently helping you in many ways, but their endeavors to make you happy went unnoticed ! And all though it is not friendship day, I decided to write this post because we don't need to celebrate a beautiful bond such as friendship on a special day of the year! Good luck to whoever is on a quest of finding a true friend !

My Blog Gets A New Name

Finally ,my blog has a new name.  Yay! This is a very important event of my journey as a blogger. Not Fundaytimez anymore, but The Diary of A Wallflower. You must have noticed the stark resemblance between the new title and Stephen Chbosky's novel "The Perks of Being a Wallflower", which of course happens to be one of my favourite books. Initially, my sister had helped me create this blog just for fun. But since it has turned into my vocation now, I thought of keeping a new name. Not that I write about serious stuffs now. But the fact is, we all love novelty, don't we ? So, I hope I get to write some better posts in future which will do justice to the new title. Cheers!

Being Happy

 It's funny how being happy can sometimes be the hardest and the easiest task at the same time. All it takes is a change in perspective. I somehow believe happiness is a choice. I've been going through a really tough time lately, with a skin disorder that has been taking a toll on me. And today, I broke down. I couldn't take it any more. I cried. And I don't think I was being stupid. I'm a sixteen year old girl who is supposed to hang out with friends and enjoy life at its very best rather than rubbing a hundred ointments on her skin daily and sitting in the sun to cure her skin problems! Plus, I had a really bad day. And I realized that I was simply focusing on the negative side of things. Which was of course the easier thing to do at the moment. But once I unloaded my  heart, I realized that life can't be perfect. But that doesn't mean one can't be happy. You can be happy if you choose to be happy. As the saying goes, "The optimist and the pessimist both die in the end. But both would have lived lives in a completely different way." I conclude with one of my favourite quotes by Parker J. Palmer ~ " Wholeness does not mean perfection. It means embracing brokenness as an integral part of life. ". So today I choose to be happy.

April Fool's Day- It's Origin

Life without macaroons- acceptable.

Life without chocolate muffins-acceptable.

But O Lord ! What would we do without fools?

Quoting Shakespeare "the dulness of the fool is the whetstone of the wits" .

So it is not irrelevant celebrating April Fool's Day every year after all, is it?

As you may be surprised to know that this day has an interesting history behind it. 

In ancient cultures, particularly those of the Romans and the Hindus, New Year Day was celebrated around April 1. It is shortly after the vernal equinox (March 20th or March 21st).In medieval times, much of Europe celebrated March 25, the Feast of Annunciation, as the beginning of the new year.

However, in 1582, the old Julian calender was replaced by Pope Gregory VIII . The new calender came to be known as the Gregorian calender and it called for New Year's Day to be celebrated Jan. 1.That year, France adopted the reformed calendar and shifted New Year's day to Jan. 1. According to a popular explanation, many people either refused to accept the new date, or did not learn about it, and continued to celebrate New Year's Day on April 1. Other people began to make fun of these traditionalists, sending them on "fool's errands" or trying to trick them into believing something false. Eventually, the practice spread throughout Europe. So, that's how April Fool's Day came into origin. Or might I say I've been fooling you? Well, I'm actually not.

Being Confident

To be candid, there are some people in the world are really lucky to have been blessed with a good physique and charming looks,  and well there are some like us who are not. Through all these years, I've learnt that a nine letter word can hold a very important position in our lives. It's  not just people who are good-looking , the ones with blue eyes and really nice hair who are confident. You can be short, you can be swarthy, you can have scanty hair or no hair at all, and you can still be confident. Confident of the

person you are on the inside, embracing your flaws and imperfections.Confidence is an attitude.  Most people when asked what is it they think that attracts a person most about another person at first sight will probably say its their looks. However, its a very wrong notion that most people have. I've seen girls with a blessed physique and appealing looks who are skittish and insecure, which brings their overall personality down. Its all about how you carry yourself. I have no intentions of sounding preachy, but once you start taking pride in yourself  no matter how you look,how old you are, or what you do, your confidence level automatically boosts up, which makes you at least ten times more attractive than you were. And that additional smile on your face will win you brownie points. So why be unhappy and jittery when you can be ruling the world with that confident self of yours?